Loser in love, or loving a loser?


So how do us girls know when their mates fella, love interest, fuckbuddy is a total loser and yet when we are dating someone like that we can’t see it. Is it that we love our mates more than we love ourselves? Is it that we are blinded by the hope that we will find some complete arsehole, who never changed for anyone else, but will change for us, as we are something so much more special? Seriously what is it? 
I see my mates making the same mistakes over and over again, giving their hearts, time and lives to these utter wankers and never wanting to believe that this is bad for them. Playing the relationship roulette game, gambling away their hopes, dreams and self-respect. Yet I hear myself telling them what so many others have told me in the past and yet they don’t, as I never did,  listen. Or they listen and they don’t hear. How many empty promises are people willing to believe in their quests to find the elusive “Mr Right”, or “The One”. What if there is no such thing as Mr Right, or The one. What if we were never even supposed to end up with just that one person, maybe we are supposed to be on our own forever. 


Instead we chase this dream and ideal, spun to us as kids from stories like Disney and the likes. Of meeting Prince Charming and living “happily ever after”. I mean which bellend came up with this outdated ideal that this is the path we follow. Why did Cinderella not just move away and start up a very successful cleaning business, using her inside knowledge and make her millions. Why didn’t Rapunzel cut off her hair and make it into a rope to escape, sod off to a gap-year, shagging the locals and leaving them broken hearted,  before going to university to become an amazing scientist? I am wondering if the fundamentals of shitty relationships actually stem back to the bullshit books we read as kids. I mean how many of us know anyone that has woken to the kissing of a Prince, after sleeping for years after pricking your finger? The reality is you wake up kissing a prick, after a crap night’s sleep, due to too many shots of Sambuca!

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  1. You go girl! Love your opinion!

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  2. This is an issue that is very close to my heart. I had a couple of good friends when growing up and I saw them all repeating the same stupid mistakes. I think it has a lot to do with how your family was when you were growing up and about the fear of ending up alone.
    When 2 of my close friends ended up pregnant while in relationships that were barely a year old my mouth fell open. I just didnt get them. Was the love so all consuming? Had they lost their common sense? No sense of self worth? Ok, one of those relationships actually lasted, but why not test the relationship out for a few years? Why not wait with the marriage and the babies?
    Last month another of my friends repated this. Married a guy she knew for a few months. And now, half a year later she is pregnant. Im just speechless. If you do this to yourself, ok, but why bring unborn children to unstable families? And i never believe a couple is stable unless they have been together for at least a year or two. Where is the hurry?

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    1. Thank you for taking the time to reply. I totally identify with this, it has happened to people I know. I think you don't really know someone unless you have A. lived with them and B. been on holiday together. They are major makers and breakers. I feel like we are in a time where everything has to be instant and it is such a shame, especially in a relationship, the beginning is the best part, exciting and within rose tinted view. I think to be truly happy in life you have to be happy with you. I am honoured that you took the time to drop me a line. :)

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  3. I actually love this. It made me laugh and itis so true. Luckily for me i found my prince but believe me this story is all too familiar to me before i got there.

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    1. Yes I have had quite a lot of similar feedback, so I think it is fair to say we are all similar. Happy to hear you have found our prince now, see it's true you have to kiss a few frogs on the way ha.

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